The key to breaking the vicious cycle which entraps Western society today lies in adopting the value system of the Torah, which system places prime importance on modesty, both in dress and in conduct. This quality is an outward expression of the concept that each human being is endowed with a personality and a life-task uniquely his own. This is what distinguishes him from everyone else. It renders him a one-of-a-kind individual, with his own, exclusive spark of the Divine within him.

The laws of modesty blend in perfectly with one's sensitivity to Man's inner being and his uniqueness. The peak refinement of this sensitivity is to be found with regard to that portion of the body which man universally regards as his own private domain and shields from the public eye. These areas of the body, the seat of Man's greatest physical passions, are specifically connected to Man's sublime need to guard his identity as a unique individual. The fact that Man conceals those very organs through which he produces the coming generation of the human race reflects his need to protect his privacy, a need which arises from his being created in the image of his Maker. 

When a young girl is about seven years old, she starts to take an interest in her social standing among her peers. Now she begins to focus more on her outward appearance. She takes pains to look her best. She also learns to exploit her femininity in order to achieve her goals. Within a short time, she learns from experience that recognition of her femininity comes at the expense of being acknowledged as an individual. Either she is a potential women, a member of a mass of females or she is a unique individual, with a personality and character traits which are hers alone. 

As she grows up and matures, a girl develops a need for recognition as a person, rather than a sexual entity whose charms are here today and gone tomorrow. Every woman lives with the fear of becoming merely an object of physical passion rather than a complete multi-faceted person. This concern is particularly potent with regard to her husband. The precepts of family purity come to a woman's aid in this area, and protect her against the dehumanization of her personality.

A woman who observes these Laws of Family Purity ensures that for approximately half of each month her husband is called upon to relate to her as a person, with her own individual character rather than merely as a sexual partner. During these two weeks, her husband has the opportunity to express his love and concern for her verbally, and to show his respect for her as a fellow human being. He is also in a better position to become acquainted with his wife as a person, and to appreciate her as such, and admire her character and personality. It is now that he will come to know the thoughts and emotions on her heart and soul. When physical contact is not permitted, the spiritual bond between the husband and wife is strengthened and grows deeper. This link between them is far longer lasting and of higher quality than the physical bond alone.

After the days of separation, the spiritual link between the two which blossomed during their period of verbal communication alone, finds a new, additional dimension in the form of physical contact which is an expression of their mutual love and respect for each other. This is the process of building up a natural, profound inter-personal bond. The two meet, converse, get to know each other and learn to recognize and understand one another. Gradually, their love grows. Then it is expressed by physical contact, as well. At this time, the woman feels that the physical closeness is an expression of the pre-existing deep personal between herself and her husband