In Judaism, the bond between husband and wife is called “nissu'in”, a term which derives from the word for elevating, or lifting on high. The significance of this concept is that entering into marriage elevates both husband and wife to a higher status in life. The marriage ceremony itself is called “Kiddushin” or “Sanctification.” This, too, alludes to elevation to a more lofty role in life as husband and wife.

Entering into marriage is the most noble step a man can take in life. It is a moment of truth for the bride, as well. Within the parameters of their new home, the bride and groom are given a “territory” of their own, a territory they are challenged to sanctify by implementing within its walls the values and ideals they hold in common. A sure matrimony encapsulates the entire range of human relationships: patience, kindness, politeness, understanding, resourcefulness, consideration for each other, restraint and self-control. Each of these is an essential foundation stone on which the couple build a happy and successful home.

Freedom is the epitome of the life shared between husband and wife. In the ideal marriage, both husband and wife enjoy the maximum freedom to grow and achieve their full potential together. The home they build together shelters them both from outside interference or restrictions. They are granted the opportunity to advance, to develop one's character and to channel one's talents in the right direction. Together with the blessing of opportunity, comes the obligation to make use of the new potential for spiritual advancement.

The marriage ceremony is only the first step toward matrimony. It allows the couple to begin their new, joint enterprise together, as husband and wife.  Together they set out to build a bond between them, and, hand in hand, march forward in life.

Singing, dancing, and celebrating the wedding ceremony apart, it is important for the new couple to keep in mind that they are now only starting out on their joint project of constructing their new identity as a “We”, rather than two “I's”. As they advance toward their destination, they will gain maturity and new insights into human nature.

The marriage ceremony has transformed two separate identities into a single new unit, the family. They now must learn to consider themselves one, and to act in unison, if they hope to reach their goal of achieving a happy marriage. Only in this manner will their happiness continue to grow and to produce rich fruits