As mentioned above, one of the tools a couple can use to strengthen the tie between them is their physical closeness. The feelings which the couple experience from physical contact reach their climax in their intimate relationship between husband and wife. This is one of the most powerful opportunities for a married couple to experience kedushah – sanctity –, and to make it their own. It is also the most sublime form in which they can express their love for each other. This is a part of the Creator's Master Plan to strengthen the inner tie between husband and wife and to foster its continued growth, so that their marriage reach ever more sublime levels of sanctity.

In the eyes of the Torah, physical contact can be compared to the canvas to which the artist applies his paints in order to create a masterpiece. A painting can be void of any spiritual content. Alternately, in the hands of an artist of the soul, it can convey a superb insight into higher, more sublime worlds. Likewise, a husband and wife are presented with the same choice; to imbue their physical relationship with a maximum of spirituality, or to let it lapse into the realm of the physical alone. Physical intimacy at its best, as intended by the Creator, brings more sanctity into the world, in that it consolidates the bond which joins husband and wife, spiritually, physically, and emotionally.

Like the artist's brush, or any other tool, the results achieved depend completely on how each of the parties involved puts it to use. Classic Jewish sources refer to the sexual drive as a powerful river. When the force of the river's current is harnessed for the benefit of man, it can irrigate fertile fields, produce rich crops which serve as an intense stockpile of energy for the entire river basin. On the other hand, if man does not control the path of the current by channeling it in the right direction, it becomes a destructive force which wreaks havoc on the fields and homes and lays the same river basin a desolate wasteland.